Friday, September 28, 2012

One loooong day in Life..




6.00 AM : This day started at 6 am in the morning..
hmm yeah it started so early .. I need to attend certification exam which is scheduled at 9.00 am.

7.30 AM started after taking lil brush up of things   ..

8.20 AM Reached exam hall..one guy face is familiar to me but I didnt shown interest to talk.wrote name in the registry and sat in the waiting sofa over there.

8.25 AM Receptionist is telling to us ..one girl is coming from jarkhand n she is unable to find the location so keep on roaming here n there since half hr in auto.Though his guidance doesnt help much either etc..
I thought by watching map only I also reached n it is on the road even hmm.

8.30 AM another two guys came n lost girl reached finally it seems by watching her relieved smile I identified its 'her' may be.she sat beside me n her pink pattiyala pant doesnt suited well on tht chudidar I felt.I m studying the paper over there n completed the main news too.

9.00 AM Still exam doesnt started yet! I n other guys enquired when it is going to start then he replied it will start in another 10 minutes.*sigh* ok what to do now I thought n watching the whole exam center n checked out the people once again.almost 8 people reached by tht time.

9.15 AM Another guy who sat beside me suddenly opened a note book n studying so seriously.What ppl will study in last min hmm I peeped into it to get know abt what certification he is going to write ..SQL commands are there so cant guess! on right hand side girl is also studying so peeped into it as well :D SAP certication only but cant figured out which module it was ..couldnt able to understand from tht nice writing hehe :P

9.20 AM I thought of freshup so reached wahroom n looked out for the washbasin n looking into the mirror (talking to myself ..write well n relax etc) suddenly one guy came from the room n he kept embarrassed face n had no clue on his face :D I shocked of watching him there n mumbled isnt it ..? before completing of my sentence only he mentioned its HE ..now embarrassment came to my face n told sorry sorry n ran out :D  laughed afterwards :P

9.25 AM One guy came with ID card and shake handed one guy n mentioned exam will start in another 5 to 10 min.I looked at the watch again! hmm

9.30 AM Rush started to go into the exam hall side so I followed them.They took cell phones from us.Safer side I enquired the receptionist whom will take care of these ? He replied : they will be safe wid us madam.
how will u get to know if someone take others phn n go ? He laughed.I didnt felt it is funny so I asked which is mine from these he showed my cell.Good it is mine! dont give to others :D I mentioned n followed the ppl.

9.35AM They started calling names..one by one is going into the hall.I was the only one left at last..I m jus looking when they will call ..they asked whats ur name? I told n they simply said it was not there in the list!!!!
my expression what !! I have explained abt when I got confirmation mail n scheduled timings as well..
They called to authorized ppl n he carried the info tht not only me total 15 ppl names got missed in the lst!
They mentioned it will take another hr to arrange the exam for me and politely asked me to wait..

9.45AM I came back to reception n sat in the same sofa searching for other papers over there..Cleaning lady came n asking what happened for u ? I told its their delay n postponed to another hr ..

10.00 AM nothing changed except my read newspapers over there! one guy came n on a corner of my eye I noticed his deep looks to me :P I went into my routine back of news reader job :D

10.30 AM magazine,papers r over.Read the news abt heart probs n male breast removal too :D Receptionist n lady maid pitied on me ..

10.40 AM my name was shouted from inside! I went instructor asking abt when exactly I got confirmation mail n details.I asked him "why it happened ? he told "I dont know ..I m enquiring abt it ..how I will know n I m new to this premises as well! ..I said fine in agreeing tone n thought in mind " who the heck will know "

11.00 AM Other person who mentioned one hr my exam start lik tht went for a tea break ..I watched n thought " go n enjy urself" :P

11.10 AM Lady maid came n asking when ur exam will start ..its already more than a hr! I gave a sigh
she is suggesting me to call to the ppl who nominated me ..hmm I told her 11.30 AM I will call them..

11.30 AM still tht person didnt came to give the info.I got bored n asked receptionist for more magazines.
He mentioned its the only magzine n tht precious one also came today only! ..I remembered brehmi expressions to give but stopped n thought not to freak receptionist :P

12.00 PM Person came n I enquired again.This time he called again n informing me tht they will tell.
I got rage this time but controlled n asked politely "test will be there today or not ? "
he mentioned "yeah definitely even yesterday also delay happened lik this n we conducted after two hrs ..
I asked in a max possible controlled tone : what about me its already three hours over !

he looked at me n guided me to his room. He sat n asked me to sit.I thought y to sit so stood n looking for a reply which he didnt gave yet!
He insisted to sit so this time to give respect I sat.
He mentioned slowly "I couldnt able to answer this question" n those are the people who can tell tht ..
I replied " I will leave then once they replied ,you pls inform to me"
He mentioned "no pls wait here ,will let u know soon"

12.45 PM Till then I played games in my mobile n cursed myself for not bringing my ear phns.
I played fish hunt n before losing exited dont wanna see defeat in games too.Opened pacman n again the same stry hmm ..SPORE game one of my fav in my mobile n never defeated in tht so opened tht ..couldnt able to believe lost tht too ..decided no concentration to do anything now etc

12.50 PM my name was called n checked he showed me the mail he got ..he told your exam will start soon..
I gave a lil bit smile aftr long time ..

1.20 PM SPORE game only winnings this time ..I felt nice..

1.30 PM they called my name for exam ..hmm AT LAST!!!!

3.30 PM Still one hr is left but I completed the answers n checked three times by tht time so got bored n hungry too.. dont have patience so pressed submit button after pray to siva .. :)

"Congratulations! you passed the exam" appeared on the screen ...







      

Thursday, October 20, 2011

How to make the RIGHT Decision..



So why do bad things happen to good people? In a word – choices. If you search for answers to this difficult question in the media or on the Internet they will invariably mention God or philosophical views related to that which you cannot control. However, in life there are many things you CAN control, just by making the right choices.
Why do bad things happen to good people? Bad things don’t just happen to good people, they happen to every single one of us. Good things happen to us all too, but we tend not to remember those because we want them to happen all the time. It’s just that when bad things happen we tend to remember them for longer.
Many external factors which we can’t control, such as the weather or the economy, often shape our decisions for us. For example if the economy is pretty bad and finances are tight, maybe you’ll decide not to splash out on that holiday or that new car. Maybe you’ll decide to save money instead.
We just don’t realize that the reason bad things happen to us a lot of the time is because we make the wrong decisions. Making one wrong decision can quickly lead to a cataclysmic sequence of events which just get worse as you go along, whether it be daily, weekly, monthly or even longer term.
These are not bad decisions, they can be considered prudent and wise. Making decisions like these are not difficult as they can be considered common sense.
However, making the right decisions on a personal level will determine what you go through mentally on a daily basis and this IS something you are in control of because the only person in control of how you think is YOU. Your frame of mind is an essential determinant of how a particular decision will pan out when it’s made. If you make a decision when you’re annoyed, angry, upset, depressed or unhappy, the likelihood of that decision turning into a negative outcome increases significantly. On the contrary, if you make a decision when you’re relaxed, happy, optimistic and affirmative, you will be more likely to experience a positive outcome.
Many people just don’t realize what frame of mind they’re in when they’re making important decisions. Making a conscious effort to understand this concept will greatly improve the chances of you making the right decisions in life. Sometimes, making the wrong decision may cost you time, money, effort, missed opportunities, or all the above. Don’t worry about it, you will get other chances to make similar choices. Where it becomes really important is when your principles and character are at stake.
Don’t ever let a decision cost you your individuality. Don’t compromise on your values, principles, ethics and whatever makes you…you. The worst kind of decision you can make is the one which costs you something dear to you, something you love. To make the right decision you need to stop thinking. Instead you need to ‘feel’ the decision. Think of all your choices you have in a particular situation and explore how you feel about each one of them. Choose the one which makes you feel the best. If you practice this method with a clear mind, you will gain clarity and will be able to easily differentiate between the right and wrong choice.
You want to ensure everything is right before taking action
Look at your options objectively. Don’t make choices when you’re negatively emotional such as sad, angry, depressed, unhappy etc. You need to be either completely unemotional or positively emotional when you’re making a decision. Here’s why you often end up making the wrong choice:
Other people tell you it’s the wrong decision
This is encroaching on your individuality. Why would you let others decide how your life will turn out? It’s a sign that you don’t trust yourself and you’re unwilling to take responsibility for your own decisions. By letting others decide for you, you’re becoming what they are not what you are.

Not learning from the past
It’s easy to do something the same way again and again simply because that’s the way you’ve always done it, it’s second nature. Take a good look at the outcome. If things have repeatedly not gone in your favour, you need to make a different choice next time. Learn from failure.

Your want instant gratification
Making a particular choice may well get you what you want right now but what are the longer term consequences? Look at the bigger picture. Try to make choices that will put you in a better position permanently in the long term, rather than making a series of wrong choices for temporary gain in the short term.

You don’t like taking risks
Your decisions tend to be mostly rational and not spontaneous. Whilst this will reduce the probability of negative outcomes in some cases, you will never experience the unexpected outcomes associated with being impulsive. You will never know what ‘could have been’ if you’re always too sensible.

Everything will never be ‘just right.’ If you’re always waiting for the perfect conditions before you do something, you might be waiting a long time. Also known as procrastination. Don’t spend too long deciding. It’ll cost you time and lost opportunities.
And here’s how to start making better choices:
    Use your experience
All the lessons you’ve learnt so far in life should equate to better decisions as you go forward. As you become more confident, your naivety should reduce as you become wiser and smarter.
    Be better informed
Rather than make an ill-informed decision based on lack of information, ensure you know as much as possible about a situation before making a decision to take action. By knowing more, you might find yourself thinking differently.
    Have belief in yourself
Other people may not agree with you, or may even put your ideas down. Learn to differentiate between listening to their opinion and changing yours because of them. Trust your instinct. Don’t be dissuaded based on the emotions of others.
    Stick with it
Once you’ve made a decision, stick to it. If you change your mind you will just create more uncertainty and will begin to doubt yourself. Have courage in your convictions and discipline yourself to stick to the choice you make.
    Think long term
Your aim is to have a good life, not just a good day or week. Making short term sacrifices for long term gain is always going to be better than a quick fix now. Thinking long term will expand your horizons and allow you to take a little longer to decide.
Remember, whatever decisions you make, make them with a sound mind. Your thoughts will ultimately become your actions and your actions will determine your circumstances.
Article Source: Vishal_C_Patel

Thursday, March 31, 2011

positive energy in life..

Our thoughts are the doorway of our emotions. “I'm completely stuck in this” - if such thoughts crop up in your mind quite often, it's time to give a serious thought to the things going wrong. A possible reason can be the responsibility of playing of several roles in life.

I am feeling bad when my bro felt sad when I forgot his birthday hmmm ... it is happening with me all the time..even my frnds r forgiving me all the time when I forgot their bdays and their important days hmmm..
I am seriously thinking of changing this routine :D

Not only for me it happens with everyone one or the other way with busy routines..
Many times we experience insomnia, mood swings, emotional turmoil and uneasiness while carrying out various duties in our lives. This can further make you passive on many fronts in life.



We then lose all our positive energy and become the storehouse of negative energy.
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Here are a few tips of regaining the lost positive energy in life:
Take Out Time for Yourself: Try and do a division of your heavy workload. Make a list of tasks which can be split into smaller chunks. If there are some tasks which you carry out regularly but at the back of your head you realise they aren't really important, give them up. Try and learn the art of time management. Make attempts to strike a balance between your personal and family life.

Bad Times would Eventually Go Away: Downbeat circumstances can become a cause of sorrow. But bear this in your mind that this time would eventually be over. Try and see if any benefits can be extracted from such harsh times. This would promote optimism in you.
Good Company: Try and avoid the company of people whose favourite pastime is exploring negativities in others. This can only aggravate your problem.
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Think Positive: Don't let thoughts like: “I'm trapped”, “things are never going to change” etc. cloud your head. Easier said than done but you can at least give it a try.
At your Workplace: If you're finding it difficult to handle things in your office, do not hesitate in walking up to your boss and discussing things with him. These days many companies provide counseling to their employees.
Leisure Activities: Though clichéd but activites like watching movies, listening to music, gossiping, travelling can actually help you overcome negativities in your life.
Getaways: If you're stuck in the din and bustle of your city life, it's time to go for a nonchalant break. Plan getaways to hills, jungles, beaches et al (there's no point going to just another city for that would not help you escape from the usual uproar). You would feel rejuvenated and. Some personal experience here.
Eat Healthy: Eating healthy food is a key to not just remain physically fit but also to attain good mental health.I miss my mom food hmm ...

courtesy of yahoo :D

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Unexpected Sadness..


New year carried Sadness earlier itself ..
My grand father died ...I was shocked to listen that news at first...Later I understood I left out with no choice other than to digest it ..

I started thinking about past ..the moments we share in the past...
My grandfather talks less so our conversations are countable from these many years..but we share silence as a emotion uncountable times..two decades of silence ended with this year death noise ...
In my early childhood once I felt y these old ppl in our house ..always restrict ours in one or the other..
I asked my dad .."Dad we will leave oldies(grand ma and grand father) alone.. I didnt like them much.."
He shocked at first n later he told in a soft tone " OK we will leave them alone ..chinna(my bro)'s wife also will do the same for US..is that fine for you? "
I was horrified for a thought like that even..
He understood my feelings and continued.."In my young age I used to be very naughty..old days ppl bring water from far places..your grandfather also bring water from far ..at tht time I asked him to carry me otherwise I used to cry..He cant leave me in a crying mood so he carries water n me ..think how difficult will be ? he should do that for every time and he did..how much patience required for that??"

After listening to my dad I felt bad n guilty...From then I started observing his acts unlike past..
n I loved him .....
I felt very sad after watching him dead ...Infact I cried...Crying won't make you less of a person.It's perfectly fine to cry over a lost love. It's the first stage of dealing with the situation.
losing someone and accepting it is one of the most challenging decisions that one will ever have to do. The aftermath is painful and is too hard to deal with. Acceptance is the last thing you have in mind for you can't believe that after everything you went through, after all the years you have been together, it still came to an end...
It is important to understand that going through denial is a natural part of the grieving process when a relationship ends..
Denial means very simply that you don't want to believe or acknowledge that what is happening is really happening.
It is definitely hard to move on, but you have no choice but to get over a relationship that ends suddenly....

tatayya I missed u...........Always noise ends not silence...you will always be there in my inner silent thoughts.........




Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Last Weekend..



My dad told me that we will go to temple on weekend so start on friday..hmmm I took permission to leave early n caught the train at 5.30 PM.Reached home at 9.30 PM.Mom keep on asking one or the other thing of my daily routine..I wondered,she didnt get bore of listening same all the time? :D
Dad asked me to go sleep ..tomorrow u have to get up early ..pooja starts at 6.30 AM.Head bath is must etc.
waking up early always  sickkk  to me :p I am preparing to go to my bed room ..he added 'keep an alarm'.
I pretended like I  m dumb :P
Next day morning mom came with a warning tone  "get up IT IS ALREADY 6.30" ..I woke up  with a horrified expression after listening that..My dad scoldings started on the other side "u r such a lazy girl,no common sense etc..... " :D
My dad getting phone calls from priest from 7AM.My dad saying we will be there on 15 minuites like that..
I know again my dad searching words to praise me :P
Rain also started ..
At last we started at 7.20 AM ..while going dad continued the remaining saga :D
he added I know u r having no time sense so I told pooja time half an hr before still we r going late becoz of u ..u should know some things we should do on time..some things like shopping does nt require time sense etc..
I thought hmm dad U always tell like this :D I remebered how many times he told the wrong train timings (always tell half an hr or one hr before :P )
ofcourse I dont mind with all these :D who cares!! :P (actually I am comfortable of being like this :P )
we drenched a lil bit n we entered into temple ..pooja started.. priest asked me two times to say 'ma ma' except tht he didnt bothered me much ..I am watching carefully siva idol..Always I love to watch him..

Priest asked us to sit outside ..he will be starting some thousand times of siva names etc ..I didnt understand much abt it ..what I got is we didnt required to sit there..
I  n my dad came out n simply taking rounds n observing temple..First time I watching this temple n noticed it is very old ..It was wonderful!! temple has been built on side of a lake..
My dad saying this temple is reconstructed now..when I came to this temple at my childhood,very big trees are surrounded here like tht..
we had a random talk afterwards ..Interesting ones are :

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In the middle of talks,I asked my dad "can we sit somewhere" ? he asked "y dont u stand atleast for an hr"
I said "Come on dad, it was already 45 min over .. I cant" :D n showed one bench ..he said tht was drenched ..it was under a tree so I said may be some part is not drenched ..let see I said n went for confirmation it was completely drenched..
He is smiling after watching my face n he said "c this is the problem with u..U dont believe until unless u come across with the problem. U should listen to it when something is not good for u n need to change according to it.." I left out with words as it is absolutely true!

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I saw the fields beside the temple n talking about people who r cropping it n all..I asked 'dad y this place is like undeveloped all the time ? '
He said in a grief tone..Here people just now stopped fighting between each other,still they r not aware of what they want..what does they require to lead a better life than this..People doesnt ask about roads even..
They r now simply enjoying the life with drinking ..
I asked "y dont we gather people n ask the MLA regarding problems?
He said " y dont we waste our time even people doesnt know what they want..If they r clear about what they want we can ask..one more thing people doesnt believe others too.."
He remebered one situation n started explaining what happened in that..
one person died who having insurance claim but the Insurance company  doesn't give money (30,000) to the family because his age is more than 70.
Family asked so many others all r asked insurance company ppl and agreed to what they said..
This time family came to me n I involved n  the company ppl gave money check in 3 days...
These r all simple tasks..still people doesnt know how to solve this..

I nodded to him n asked how u solved dad?..I know that he know so many big  people but I dont think he consult them for this small task..
 he said "I know one insurance agent here when we took policy from him..Now LIC agents will get the 25% from the policy but what they r doing is they r just keeping 5% of it n returning back the remaining percent money to the people who r taking the policy..he offered me the remaining percentage ..
I said "you people r living on that percentage..Keep it with you .."
He saw me with a non believing expression becoz who say no to money ..hmm
When these people came to me ..I called him n said the problem ..he told that "Because of U,I am doing this sir" ..
Generally people ask about their own benefits but here we r asking for others ..That is the another reason for him to think better of us..n doing it by taking his own interest..
dad added : If he is not there also I can solve it by talking with the company manager as it is a small amount..
I thought I know dad u can do it ..I love you ..... :)



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We came out of temple later ..last weekend is one of the sweet moments which I spent with my family...

Thursday, October 21, 2010

huh!!!!


Limitation always walks with fear. I really felt it. We don’t go outside and create our limitation up to the gate as outside is surrounded by darkness. I was to feel it in my childhood. Some one has really defined FEAR in very right way.
What is Fear? FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.
It is necessary to touch the fear sometimes, but not in this way! I am scared to think abt things going to happen in my future..
I couldnt take decission n cant even think abt it! I wonder always what will happen if I take some wrong decission or select some wrong person to be with!
It is really weird to select someone/Unknown for your life time frnd  ..

We face hundreds of problems in our day-to-day lives (most of are generated by our tired imagination only). Don’t we face them? Problem has no body. You cannot measure it. Nothing is big or small when it is locked in our mind.
There are two ways to approach problems,. You can sit down and say, ‘Oh my god, I can’t face this, it will destroy me.’ Or You can stand up and look beyond it to see how it can make you grow ..
now my approach seems to be FIRST. God!

No wonder most people want to escape into fantasy and make the movies such big business. But the fact remains we cannot forever put our heads in the sand. Some time or the other we will have to acknowledge the TRUTH!
Cant carry this big fat load to  take Decission...Y dont someone of my dreams walk infront of me :D
y reality Sucks!

Friday, September 28, 2012

One loooong day in Life..

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6.00 AM : This day started at 6 am in the morning..
hmm yeah it started so early .. I need to attend certification exam which is scheduled at 9.00 am.

7.30 AM started after taking lil brush up of things   ..

8.20 AM Reached exam hall..one guy face is familiar to me but I didnt shown interest to talk.wrote name in the registry and sat in the waiting sofa over there.

8.25 AM Receptionist is telling to us ..one girl is coming from jarkhand n she is unable to find the location so keep on roaming here n there since half hr in auto.Though his guidance doesnt help much either etc..
I thought by watching map only I also reached n it is on the road even hmm.

8.30 AM another two guys came n lost girl reached finally it seems by watching her relieved smile I identified its 'her' may be.she sat beside me n her pink pattiyala pant doesnt suited well on tht chudidar I felt.I m studying the paper over there n completed the main news too.

9.00 AM Still exam doesnt started yet! I n other guys enquired when it is going to start then he replied it will start in another 10 minutes.*sigh* ok what to do now I thought n watching the whole exam center n checked out the people once again.almost 8 people reached by tht time.

9.15 AM Another guy who sat beside me suddenly opened a note book n studying so seriously.What ppl will study in last min hmm I peeped into it to get know abt what certification he is going to write ..SQL commands are there so cant guess! on right hand side girl is also studying so peeped into it as well :D SAP certication only but cant figured out which module it was ..couldnt able to understand from tht nice writing hehe :P

9.20 AM I thought of freshup so reached wahroom n looked out for the washbasin n looking into the mirror (talking to myself ..write well n relax etc) suddenly one guy came from the room n he kept embarrassed face n had no clue on his face :D I shocked of watching him there n mumbled isnt it ..? before completing of my sentence only he mentioned its HE ..now embarrassment came to my face n told sorry sorry n ran out :D  laughed afterwards :P

9.25 AM One guy came with ID card and shake handed one guy n mentioned exam will start in another 5 to 10 min.I looked at the watch again! hmm

9.30 AM Rush started to go into the exam hall side so I followed them.They took cell phones from us.Safer side I enquired the receptionist whom will take care of these ? He replied : they will be safe wid us madam.
how will u get to know if someone take others phn n go ? He laughed.I didnt felt it is funny so I asked which is mine from these he showed my cell.Good it is mine! dont give to others :D I mentioned n followed the ppl.

9.35AM They started calling names..one by one is going into the hall.I was the only one left at last..I m jus looking when they will call ..they asked whats ur name? I told n they simply said it was not there in the list!!!!
my expression what !! I have explained abt when I got confirmation mail n scheduled timings as well..
They called to authorized ppl n he carried the info tht not only me total 15 ppl names got missed in the lst!
They mentioned it will take another hr to arrange the exam for me and politely asked me to wait..

9.45AM I came back to reception n sat in the same sofa searching for other papers over there..Cleaning lady came n asking what happened for u ? I told its their delay n postponed to another hr ..

10.00 AM nothing changed except my read newspapers over there! one guy came n on a corner of my eye I noticed his deep looks to me :P I went into my routine back of news reader job :D

10.30 AM magazine,papers r over.Read the news abt heart probs n male breast removal too :D Receptionist n lady maid pitied on me ..

10.40 AM my name was shouted from inside! I went instructor asking abt when exactly I got confirmation mail n details.I asked him "why it happened ? he told "I dont know ..I m enquiring abt it ..how I will know n I m new to this premises as well! ..I said fine in agreeing tone n thought in mind " who the heck will know "

11.00 AM Other person who mentioned one hr my exam start lik tht went for a tea break ..I watched n thought " go n enjy urself" :P

11.10 AM Lady maid came n asking when ur exam will start ..its already more than a hr! I gave a sigh
she is suggesting me to call to the ppl who nominated me ..hmm I told her 11.30 AM I will call them..

11.30 AM still tht person didnt came to give the info.I got bored n asked receptionist for more magazines.
He mentioned its the only magzine n tht precious one also came today only! ..I remembered brehmi expressions to give but stopped n thought not to freak receptionist :P

12.00 PM Person came n I enquired again.This time he called again n informing me tht they will tell.
I got rage this time but controlled n asked politely "test will be there today or not ? "
he mentioned "yeah definitely even yesterday also delay happened lik this n we conducted after two hrs ..
I asked in a max possible controlled tone : what about me its already three hours over !

he looked at me n guided me to his room. He sat n asked me to sit.I thought y to sit so stood n looking for a reply which he didnt gave yet!
He insisted to sit so this time to give respect I sat.
He mentioned slowly "I couldnt able to answer this question" n those are the people who can tell tht ..
I replied " I will leave then once they replied ,you pls inform to me"
He mentioned "no pls wait here ,will let u know soon"

12.45 PM Till then I played games in my mobile n cursed myself for not bringing my ear phns.
I played fish hunt n before losing exited dont wanna see defeat in games too.Opened pacman n again the same stry hmm ..SPORE game one of my fav in my mobile n never defeated in tht so opened tht ..couldnt able to believe lost tht too ..decided no concentration to do anything now etc

12.50 PM my name was called n checked he showed me the mail he got ..he told your exam will start soon..
I gave a lil bit smile aftr long time ..

1.20 PM SPORE game only winnings this time ..I felt nice..

1.30 PM they called my name for exam ..hmm AT LAST!!!!

3.30 PM Still one hr is left but I completed the answers n checked three times by tht time so got bored n hungry too.. dont have patience so pressed submit button after pray to siva .. :)

"Congratulations! you passed the exam" appeared on the screen ...







      

Thursday, October 20, 2011

How to make the RIGHT Decision..

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So why do bad things happen to good people? In a word – choices. If you search for answers to this difficult question in the media or on the Internet they will invariably mention God or philosophical views related to that which you cannot control. However, in life there are many things you CAN control, just by making the right choices.
Why do bad things happen to good people? Bad things don’t just happen to good people, they happen to every single one of us. Good things happen to us all too, but we tend not to remember those because we want them to happen all the time. It’s just that when bad things happen we tend to remember them for longer.
Many external factors which we can’t control, such as the weather or the economy, often shape our decisions for us. For example if the economy is pretty bad and finances are tight, maybe you’ll decide not to splash out on that holiday or that new car. Maybe you’ll decide to save money instead.
We just don’t realize that the reason bad things happen to us a lot of the time is because we make the wrong decisions. Making one wrong decision can quickly lead to a cataclysmic sequence of events which just get worse as you go along, whether it be daily, weekly, monthly or even longer term.
These are not bad decisions, they can be considered prudent and wise. Making decisions like these are not difficult as they can be considered common sense.
However, making the right decisions on a personal level will determine what you go through mentally on a daily basis and this IS something you are in control of because the only person in control of how you think is YOU. Your frame of mind is an essential determinant of how a particular decision will pan out when it’s made. If you make a decision when you’re annoyed, angry, upset, depressed or unhappy, the likelihood of that decision turning into a negative outcome increases significantly. On the contrary, if you make a decision when you’re relaxed, happy, optimistic and affirmative, you will be more likely to experience a positive outcome.
Many people just don’t realize what frame of mind they’re in when they’re making important decisions. Making a conscious effort to understand this concept will greatly improve the chances of you making the right decisions in life. Sometimes, making the wrong decision may cost you time, money, effort, missed opportunities, or all the above. Don’t worry about it, you will get other chances to make similar choices. Where it becomes really important is when your principles and character are at stake.
Don’t ever let a decision cost you your individuality. Don’t compromise on your values, principles, ethics and whatever makes you…you. The worst kind of decision you can make is the one which costs you something dear to you, something you love. To make the right decision you need to stop thinking. Instead you need to ‘feel’ the decision. Think of all your choices you have in a particular situation and explore how you feel about each one of them. Choose the one which makes you feel the best. If you practice this method with a clear mind, you will gain clarity and will be able to easily differentiate between the right and wrong choice.
You want to ensure everything is right before taking action
Look at your options objectively. Don’t make choices when you’re negatively emotional such as sad, angry, depressed, unhappy etc. You need to be either completely unemotional or positively emotional when you’re making a decision. Here’s why you often end up making the wrong choice:
Other people tell you it’s the wrong decision
This is encroaching on your individuality. Why would you let others decide how your life will turn out? It’s a sign that you don’t trust yourself and you’re unwilling to take responsibility for your own decisions. By letting others decide for you, you’re becoming what they are not what you are.

Not learning from the past
It’s easy to do something the same way again and again simply because that’s the way you’ve always done it, it’s second nature. Take a good look at the outcome. If things have repeatedly not gone in your favour, you need to make a different choice next time. Learn from failure.

Your want instant gratification
Making a particular choice may well get you what you want right now but what are the longer term consequences? Look at the bigger picture. Try to make choices that will put you in a better position permanently in the long term, rather than making a series of wrong choices for temporary gain in the short term.

You don’t like taking risks
Your decisions tend to be mostly rational and not spontaneous. Whilst this will reduce the probability of negative outcomes in some cases, you will never experience the unexpected outcomes associated with being impulsive. You will never know what ‘could have been’ if you’re always too sensible.

Everything will never be ‘just right.’ If you’re always waiting for the perfect conditions before you do something, you might be waiting a long time. Also known as procrastination. Don’t spend too long deciding. It’ll cost you time and lost opportunities.
And here’s how to start making better choices:
    Use your experience
All the lessons you’ve learnt so far in life should equate to better decisions as you go forward. As you become more confident, your naivety should reduce as you become wiser and smarter.
    Be better informed
Rather than make an ill-informed decision based on lack of information, ensure you know as much as possible about a situation before making a decision to take action. By knowing more, you might find yourself thinking differently.
    Have belief in yourself
Other people may not agree with you, or may even put your ideas down. Learn to differentiate between listening to their opinion and changing yours because of them. Trust your instinct. Don’t be dissuaded based on the emotions of others.
    Stick with it
Once you’ve made a decision, stick to it. If you change your mind you will just create more uncertainty and will begin to doubt yourself. Have courage in your convictions and discipline yourself to stick to the choice you make.
    Think long term
Your aim is to have a good life, not just a good day or week. Making short term sacrifices for long term gain is always going to be better than a quick fix now. Thinking long term will expand your horizons and allow you to take a little longer to decide.
Remember, whatever decisions you make, make them with a sound mind. Your thoughts will ultimately become your actions and your actions will determine your circumstances.
Article Source: Vishal_C_Patel

Thursday, March 31, 2011

positive energy in life..

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Our thoughts are the doorway of our emotions. “I'm completely stuck in this” - if such thoughts crop up in your mind quite often, it's time to give a serious thought to the things going wrong. A possible reason can be the responsibility of playing of several roles in life.

I am feeling bad when my bro felt sad when I forgot his birthday hmmm ... it is happening with me all the time..even my frnds r forgiving me all the time when I forgot their bdays and their important days hmmm..
I am seriously thinking of changing this routine :D

Not only for me it happens with everyone one or the other way with busy routines..
Many times we experience insomnia, mood swings, emotional turmoil and uneasiness while carrying out various duties in our lives. This can further make you passive on many fronts in life.



We then lose all our positive energy and become the storehouse of negative energy.
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Here are a few tips of regaining the lost positive energy in life:
Take Out Time for Yourself: Try and do a division of your heavy workload. Make a list of tasks which can be split into smaller chunks. If there are some tasks which you carry out regularly but at the back of your head you realise they aren't really important, give them up. Try and learn the art of time management. Make attempts to strike a balance between your personal and family life.

Bad Times would Eventually Go Away: Downbeat circumstances can become a cause of sorrow. But bear this in your mind that this time would eventually be over. Try and see if any benefits can be extracted from such harsh times. This would promote optimism in you.
Good Company: Try and avoid the company of people whose favourite pastime is exploring negativities in others. This can only aggravate your problem.
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Think Positive: Don't let thoughts like: “I'm trapped”, “things are never going to change” etc. cloud your head. Easier said than done but you can at least give it a try.
At your Workplace: If you're finding it difficult to handle things in your office, do not hesitate in walking up to your boss and discussing things with him. These days many companies provide counseling to their employees.
Leisure Activities: Though clichéd but activites like watching movies, listening to music, gossiping, travelling can actually help you overcome negativities in your life.
Getaways: If you're stuck in the din and bustle of your city life, it's time to go for a nonchalant break. Plan getaways to hills, jungles, beaches et al (there's no point going to just another city for that would not help you escape from the usual uproar). You would feel rejuvenated and. Some personal experience here.
Eat Healthy: Eating healthy food is a key to not just remain physically fit but also to attain good mental health.I miss my mom food hmm ...

courtesy of yahoo :D

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Unexpected Sadness..

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New year carried Sadness earlier itself ..
My grand father died ...I was shocked to listen that news at first...Later I understood I left out with no choice other than to digest it ..

I started thinking about past ..the moments we share in the past...
My grandfather talks less so our conversations are countable from these many years..but we share silence as a emotion uncountable times..two decades of silence ended with this year death noise ...
In my early childhood once I felt y these old ppl in our house ..always restrict ours in one or the other..
I asked my dad .."Dad we will leave oldies(grand ma and grand father) alone.. I didnt like them much.."
He shocked at first n later he told in a soft tone " OK we will leave them alone ..chinna(my bro)'s wife also will do the same for US..is that fine for you? "
I was horrified for a thought like that even..
He understood my feelings and continued.."In my young age I used to be very naughty..old days ppl bring water from far places..your grandfather also bring water from far ..at tht time I asked him to carry me otherwise I used to cry..He cant leave me in a crying mood so he carries water n me ..think how difficult will be ? he should do that for every time and he did..how much patience required for that??"

After listening to my dad I felt bad n guilty...From then I started observing his acts unlike past..
n I loved him .....
I felt very sad after watching him dead ...Infact I cried...Crying won't make you less of a person.It's perfectly fine to cry over a lost love. It's the first stage of dealing with the situation.
losing someone and accepting it is one of the most challenging decisions that one will ever have to do. The aftermath is painful and is too hard to deal with. Acceptance is the last thing you have in mind for you can't believe that after everything you went through, after all the years you have been together, it still came to an end...
It is important to understand that going through denial is a natural part of the grieving process when a relationship ends..
Denial means very simply that you don't want to believe or acknowledge that what is happening is really happening.
It is definitely hard to move on, but you have no choice but to get over a relationship that ends suddenly....

tatayya I missed u...........Always noise ends not silence...you will always be there in my inner silent thoughts.........




Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Last Weekend..

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My dad told me that we will go to temple on weekend so start on friday..hmmm I took permission to leave early n caught the train at 5.30 PM.Reached home at 9.30 PM.Mom keep on asking one or the other thing of my daily routine..I wondered,she didnt get bore of listening same all the time? :D
Dad asked me to go sleep ..tomorrow u have to get up early ..pooja starts at 6.30 AM.Head bath is must etc.
waking up early always  sickkk  to me :p I am preparing to go to my bed room ..he added 'keep an alarm'.
I pretended like I  m dumb :P
Next day morning mom came with a warning tone  "get up IT IS ALREADY 6.30" ..I woke up  with a horrified expression after listening that..My dad scoldings started on the other side "u r such a lazy girl,no common sense etc..... " :D
My dad getting phone calls from priest from 7AM.My dad saying we will be there on 15 minuites like that..
I know again my dad searching words to praise me :P
Rain also started ..
At last we started at 7.20 AM ..while going dad continued the remaining saga :D
he added I know u r having no time sense so I told pooja time half an hr before still we r going late becoz of u ..u should know some things we should do on time..some things like shopping does nt require time sense etc..
I thought hmm dad U always tell like this :D I remebered how many times he told the wrong train timings (always tell half an hr or one hr before :P )
ofcourse I dont mind with all these :D who cares!! :P (actually I am comfortable of being like this :P )
we drenched a lil bit n we entered into temple ..pooja started.. priest asked me two times to say 'ma ma' except tht he didnt bothered me much ..I am watching carefully siva idol..Always I love to watch him..

Priest asked us to sit outside ..he will be starting some thousand times of siva names etc ..I didnt understand much abt it ..what I got is we didnt required to sit there..
I  n my dad came out n simply taking rounds n observing temple..First time I watching this temple n noticed it is very old ..It was wonderful!! temple has been built on side of a lake..
My dad saying this temple is reconstructed now..when I came to this temple at my childhood,very big trees are surrounded here like tht..
we had a random talk afterwards ..Interesting ones are :

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In the middle of talks,I asked my dad "can we sit somewhere" ? he asked "y dont u stand atleast for an hr"
I said "Come on dad, it was already 45 min over .. I cant" :D n showed one bench ..he said tht was drenched ..it was under a tree so I said may be some part is not drenched ..let see I said n went for confirmation it was completely drenched..
He is smiling after watching my face n he said "c this is the problem with u..U dont believe until unless u come across with the problem. U should listen to it when something is not good for u n need to change according to it.." I left out with words as it is absolutely true!

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I saw the fields beside the temple n talking about people who r cropping it n all..I asked 'dad y this place is like undeveloped all the time ? '
He said in a grief tone..Here people just now stopped fighting between each other,still they r not aware of what they want..what does they require to lead a better life than this..People doesnt ask about roads even..
They r now simply enjoying the life with drinking ..
I asked "y dont we gather people n ask the MLA regarding problems?
He said " y dont we waste our time even people doesnt know what they want..If they r clear about what they want we can ask..one more thing people doesnt believe others too.."
He remebered one situation n started explaining what happened in that..
one person died who having insurance claim but the Insurance company  doesn't give money (30,000) to the family because his age is more than 70.
Family asked so many others all r asked insurance company ppl and agreed to what they said..
This time family came to me n I involved n  the company ppl gave money check in 3 days...
These r all simple tasks..still people doesnt know how to solve this..

I nodded to him n asked how u solved dad?..I know that he know so many big  people but I dont think he consult them for this small task..
 he said "I know one insurance agent here when we took policy from him..Now LIC agents will get the 25% from the policy but what they r doing is they r just keeping 5% of it n returning back the remaining percent money to the people who r taking the policy..he offered me the remaining percentage ..
I said "you people r living on that percentage..Keep it with you .."
He saw me with a non believing expression becoz who say no to money ..hmm
When these people came to me ..I called him n said the problem ..he told that "Because of U,I am doing this sir" ..
Generally people ask about their own benefits but here we r asking for others ..That is the another reason for him to think better of us..n doing it by taking his own interest..
dad added : If he is not there also I can solve it by talking with the company manager as it is a small amount..
I thought I know dad u can do it ..I love you ..... :)



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We came out of temple later ..last weekend is one of the sweet moments which I spent with my family...

Thursday, October 21, 2010

huh!!!!

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Limitation always walks with fear. I really felt it. We don’t go outside and create our limitation up to the gate as outside is surrounded by darkness. I was to feel it in my childhood. Some one has really defined FEAR in very right way.
What is Fear? FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.
It is necessary to touch the fear sometimes, but not in this way! I am scared to think abt things going to happen in my future..
I couldnt take decission n cant even think abt it! I wonder always what will happen if I take some wrong decission or select some wrong person to be with!
It is really weird to select someone/Unknown for your life time frnd  ..

We face hundreds of problems in our day-to-day lives (most of are generated by our tired imagination only). Don’t we face them? Problem has no body. You cannot measure it. Nothing is big or small when it is locked in our mind.
There are two ways to approach problems,. You can sit down and say, ‘Oh my god, I can’t face this, it will destroy me.’ Or You can stand up and look beyond it to see how it can make you grow ..
now my approach seems to be FIRST. God!

No wonder most people want to escape into fantasy and make the movies such big business. But the fact remains we cannot forever put our heads in the sand. Some time or the other we will have to acknowledge the TRUTH!
Cant carry this big fat load to  take Decission...Y dont someone of my dreams walk infront of me :D
y reality Sucks!